Knowing Self - The First Demand of Leadership
By Steve Gahagen
Gallup identifies “Know Yourself” as the first of its Seven Demands of Leadership—and for good reason. It’s not just a leadership trait; it’s a foundation for mental health and authentic connection. When we’re comfortable in our own skin, we’re more able to make space for others. And when we see ourselves through a strengths lens, we tend to see others that way too.
When working with young people, we often ask, “How many of you think you're leaders?” About 30 percent of hands go up. Then we ask, “How many of you have influence?” Nearly every hand is raised. That’s the truth: if you have influence, you are a leader. By that definition, every parent is a leader.
So why is it important to leverage your strengths as a leader?
You lead best when you lead as you.
Imitating someone else’s style can be exhausting—and your team can feel the disconnect. People don’t follow perfection; they follow authenticity.Your strengths are your most reliable tools.
Leadership comes with curveballs. When the stakes are high, it’s your natural talents that keep you steady and resourceful.It builds trust and credibility.
When you operate in your zone of genius, people notice. You’re more confident, consistent, and clear. That earns trust—and trust is the currency of leadership.It boosts engagement—for you and your team.
Leading from your strengths brings more energy, joy, and purpose to your work. And it gives your team permission to do the same.You can lead without burning out.
Trying to lead from your weaknesses is like running a marathon in shoes that don’t fit. It’s not sustainable. Leading from your strengths allows you to go the distance.
Questions to Consider:
What are the qualities or skills that energize me when I use them?
How do my strengths positively impact the people around me?
What strengths do I underuse, and why might that be?
What would it look like to lead others by helping them uncover and use their strengths, too?