Leveraging Your Strengths in Relationships
By Steve Gahagen
Leveraging your strengths isn’t just about productivity—it’s about showing up in your relationships as your most authentic, capable self. Here’s how:
Know your strengths.
Awareness is the first step. When you know what you’re naturally good at, you can bring it to your relationships on purpose.Name and own what you bring.
Too often, we downplay our gifts. But your ability to stay calm, ask thoughtful questions, or bring joy—these aren’t small things. They’re the glue that holds relationships together.Apply your strengths where they’re needed most.
Use your emotional insight to check in on a struggling friend. Use your organizational skills to gather people together. When you lead with what comes naturally, relationships grow stronger and more meaningful.Celebrate the strengths of others.
When we learn to see and affirm the gifts in those around us, we help them come alive. Strengths-based relationships create an environment where people feel seen, valued, and encouraged.Build from strength, not from deficiency.
Instead of asking, “What’s broken here?” ask, “What strengths can I bring into this space to help it thrive?”
When we lead with strengths, we don’t just improve performance—we elevate connection, belonging, and joy.
Whether at work or at home, your strengths can help you build the kinds of relationships where everyone flourishes.
Questions to Consider:
Why is knowing our strengths an advantage in building strong relationships?
What strengths do you most use to build strong relationships with others?
What value do you bring to others because of your strengths?